There are times in life when we start to doubt that we’re on the right path or that we have made the right life choices. These times can come early or later in life; they are usually a signal from our subconscious mind that we need to make time for personal development, and perhaps explore a part of ourselves we haven’t looked at yet. Many people will go to therapists and pay a small fortune for what they might only need in a good self help book, self help article, or a new route to personal development.
However, sometimes something will stop us. Sometimes, although we are aware we need to make a change, we have looked over the books and want to invest in some personal development, but something gets in the way. That something is usually low self-esteem. Do not believe it when others say they have never suffered from low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a part of life, a part of our past, a part of growing up, and of learning. When self-esteem gets to the point that it is debilitating, you may decide to seek a therapist to help get past what is blocking you.
Meanwhile, there are many things you can do to help your self-esteem. Our sense of self starts in our early years, and this is a time when we receive some knocks and blows, even from those who love us the most. Our subconscious mind absorbs the emotional pain, and when we least expect it, it may suddenly rear itself.
The first thing to do is to recognize the reasons behind your low self-esteem, and realize that you are not to blame for it. You are not a guilty person. Something happened in the past, and it needs to be put to sleep so that you can move on with your own personal development. This acknowledgement can be a powerful moment in a person’s life. When you realize that you have the power to control your thinking and your own thoughts, you start to gain control over your low self-esteem.
When bad thoughts creep in, simply tell them to stop. This is one of the first and most powerful steps in restoring yourself. For powerful self-development, start a journal. Examine your journal for the days when your self-esteem seems to be much lower than other days, and examine your thinking patterns on that day. You will often find that you are being your own worst critic on those days. Facing this dark side and flipping it into something positive can be attained through daily affirmations. Stand in front of a mirror and start to tell yourself what you love about yourself. As you use your journal, end each page with a loving thought about yourself, or a sense of accomplishment, no matter how small. As your esteem rises, so will your self-acceptance, along with your ability to evolve into a more authentic you.